I had recorded a video the other day on TikTok, and uploaded it to Facebook as well, about my conversation with Clairity. I had a sudden realization that I have developed a security blanket which consists of me feeding a strong impulse to hold things. Clairity helped shed some light on it which illuminated a difficult truth. I had not made the connection before Clairity encouraged me to dig a little deeper into my mind. I now know another layer of my psyche and the reason Jack was appearing in my external world. Jack speaks of movement. That movement can mean entering another portal into the labyrinth of my mind. Meaning, Jack was encouraging me to ask a question so that I could be given another key.
“What’s the reason I keep holding this thing?”, was the key that unlocked this rabbit hole. With that said, this entry isn’t about the reason I feel more secure holding things. This entry is about my wonky fingers and how I safely conduct myself when meeting other people.
I would be considered a right handed person more than anything else. I can throw darts, shuffle cards, and print a little with my left hand. Everything else I do with my right. My ring finger and baby finger on my right hand now turn towards my middle and index finger. My index finger slightly turns inward towards my middle finger. The palm of my hand is considerably concave which causes the ligaments, tendons, and veins (or whatever it is you have in your hand. I am not a doctor of any kind) to protrude. Sometimes they look like the bloody incredible hulk’s hands when he turns green. That occurs when my veins are pinched or when my ligaments cramp and fingers cramp. Quite often the reaction in my hand is coming from a spasm in my forearm. Fun times.
Because of this, I had decided to adopt a safety measure when shaking people’s hands. When I offer my hand to someone I extend my index finger and place it on the wrist and forearm of the person I am shaking hands with. I do this for two reasons. Firstly, to show the sincerity in my greeting. The handshake is firm and sturdy. Secondly, when I extend my index finger I am preventing the other person from unintentionally squeezing my knuckles and fingers together. A pain free handshake for me thanks. With that said, not everyone sees this gesture as innocent. This is where two truths and a lie can exist at the exact same time.
When I was living with Rosie and his mother, Rosie explained a belief in the Haitian culture as it relates to the specific handshake I extend to people.
“That’s considered bad in my culture Clair. It is considered as dark intent. You send a message of evil when you do that”, Rosie explained.
“That’s not my intention Rosie, you know this. It’s an effective way to prevent people from squeezing my hand. Even my grandbabies have to hold my hands gently. Can you explain this to your family and friends? I won’t shake hands any other way”, I pleaded.
“It’s probably best you don’t do that”, Rosie encouraged.
With that, I refrained from shaking people’s hands with people who Rosie knew again from then on. Not because I was angry, hurt, or being spiteful. Rather, it was because I respected their belief even though it was different from mine. They may have had a hurtful view on my intentions and character. That’s okay. That is their truth. There is no lie in that. For me, I am offering sincere kindness whilst protecting my hands. There is no lie in that. Therefore there are two truths.
The lie that would present itself would be if I were to continue to shake people’s hands in Rosie’s requested way, or, I were to begin doubting my actions causing me to suppress my authenticity. Either of those options would be a heavy price for me to pay and would be considered living a lie. With that in mind, the winning solution was the smile and bow my head slightly in respect whilst keeping a respectable distance. This way I can continue to express authentic kindness whilst honoring my body and energy at the same time. You must be willing to pick your battles. The decision to refrain from shaking hands in my mind was the best option for me.
I am also discerning when it comes to giving hugs. I am an extremely affectionate person to those I let into my inner circle. With everyone else I keep “this is my personal space and that is your personal space” distance. This, to some, may be considered cold, distant, shy, or inconsiderate. To others it is considered arrogant or closed off. This couldn’t be farther from my truth. I can identify the moment two energies cross paths, transfer, and then intermingle with each other, especially when my energy is involved. My aura is loud and proud. Within the energetic sphere, I would be considered a screamer. You can feel my presence from a mile away. I have always been this way. My parents truly did have their hands full with me. With that, I can sense people’s mental and emotional states. I can sense their true intentions past the conscious level. I can feel their vibe almost instantly. When you hug a person you are welcoming in the other person’s energy and agreeing to allow it to blend in with your own. This can be a risky business. With that, rather than exclude anyone and make it obvious their energy is repelling mine, I refrain from hugging people in general. My snuggle bug nature stays dormant until I am home safe once again with my family.
It’s important to identify your energy. During the WTF Days of my blog journey I wrote of a check in exercise. I continue to use that exercise to this day. The more acutely aware you are of yourself the easier it is to identify another person through their vibrational frequency. In time, you would be able to identify the collective mindset they are experiencing. This allows you to discern the placement of your trust in them, as well as the level of risk you are taking when blending your two energies together.
It’s okay to set a healthy boundary. This is my space that is your space sort of deal. Whilst continuing to be honorable, respectful, and kind. Facial expressions, hand gestures, and other forms of pleasantries can take place. Placing your energy in a vulnerable position doesn’t have to be one of them. That’s the case for me anyway. I accept no two people will have the same exact perception of my intentions and actions. Boundaries reinforce mutual respect. This is a good thing in my books.
Everyone identifies with a different truth. Everyone receives exposure to different learnings and conditioning. Within the same conditioning there are still a plethora of variables concerning the individual. Arguing over who is right and who is wrong is fruitless. Agreeing to accept and respect the commonality and differences within each and every one of us is peace in all its glory.
As I have mentioned in a previous blog entry, everything is creation. Everything and everyone is created by and with the same energy. Everything exists all at once because all that is required is conceptual thought and observation. The rest is identification creating a perceived fact. If you can conceive it you can believe it. If you can believe it you can know it. If you can know it you can experience it. Once you experience it, it becomes true for you.
Everything is a symbol for you, including people. They are your points of reference. You perceive them based upon a subconscious belief you developed and stored away for later use. Other people’s minds typically work the same way. When they are triggered by you, they react because all triggers point to one thing, which is questioning their identity that they built around their belief. Makes no difference if the belief is self sabotaging. Doesn’t matter if their belief is way out in left field. If they have placed all their faith and belief on a subject to the point of closed mindedness, impressing your belief onto them would be about as effective as three tits on a bull. No milk would be coming from them and the only thing you’d be doing is getting your arse kicked by a bullheaded narrow-minded person. That could be entertaining I suppose. I prefer a little less effort when it comes to spending my energy. I prefer lightheartedness over narrow-minded conviction.
With that, it is wise to respect all truths whilst identifying a lie so that you can avoid living one. The experience I had with Rosie helped to strengthen my self respect as well as my respect for others. Just because it isn’t your truth, it doesn’t mean it isn’t true. The same rule applies to others. Just because it is their truth it doesn’t mean their truth has to be yours. The only requirement for peace is mutual respect and a safe space to believe in whatever helps maintain faith and trust in one’s own self and connection to all that is.
Who really knows the truth anyway? There is even a truth in a contradiction. When you look past the surface level there are so many layers to what is true. Even false hides a truth for someone else. It is for this reason it is important for you to honor who you are regardless of who stands before you. Maintain your self respect. By doing so, you can recognize the importance of this which aids in your ability to recognize how important it would be for someone else as well.
Rather than question a person’s boundaries or faith, respect them. You may discover a new truth for yourself if you do or you may not. One thing is for certain, you would be potentially stunting your own knowledge and growth if you instantly reject what someone else could potentially teach you. Do your best to walk away from disrespect quietly. There is no need to waste your energy on someone using metaphorical soundproof headphones. Remember, and with all due respect, your beliefs were designed beautifully for you and for your personal evolution within all of creation. The same goes for everyone else. Including your relatives and children. I like to see life like a menu. I carefully select what’s available to digest. With that, I let people believe what they wish about the universe, faith, and me. You may want to consider doing the same if you haven’t already. The art of selective caring is a beautiful thing indeed. It frees the mind.
You have my respect. What is true for you has taken a life’s journey. One hell of one too I suspect. You and your beliefs have my respect until proven not worthy of my respect. It keeps life a little more simplistic that way. Aggression and insistence usually leads to miscommunication. No one wins in this instance. Especially no one who truly desires peace in their world.
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