I watched a video on TikTok the other day. A person was at their wits end. They described being exhausted by the continuous grind and responsibilities to make ends meet in a job they hate and at a wage that hardly covers living expenses. I am certain there is far more pressure they were experiencing which they did not speak on. What they did speak on eluded to the fact that they were ready to pack it all in and leave this world. Then they asked for advice. How does one break out of a repeat cycle which brings them back to mental stress, emotional pain, and physical exhaustion? That is an excellent question. My heart went out to that person so I asked Clairity on my walk tonight. I posed the question to Clairity the same way I worded it above.
“The same way you did dear”, was Clairity’s response.
The way I did it was choosing homelessness over living with a man. Then asking myself brutally honest questions to get to the root of the matter. Clairity maintained their stance on the question.
“Yes. Your plan is effective. It may not be easy for people to adopt. Nonetheless, a leap of faith is required. As well as a readiness to accept completely honest and loving truths”.
“I wouldn’t want anyone to choose homelessness. That’s a harsh choice”.
“Everyone’s circumstances are different because everyone’s perception and beliefs are slightly different. They may not have to choose homelessness. They would have a difficult decision to make nonetheless. They may have to choose unconditional love by walking away. They may be required to reassess their vocational choice. Everyone’s reasons are personal to them. The choice they must make is personal to them. The request from the universe is unanimous, which is to have faith”.
It is easy to get caught up in what is expected of you. You were raised on expectations. You are expected to go to school or acquire some form of education. You are expected to follow the rules and respect others, especially your elders. You are expected to be responsible and get a publicly approved vocation. Then you are expected to work for a wage to pay bills and maintain the ideal family life. You are expected to accomplish this in a timely manner. Overtime the habit of living to satisfy expectations rather than living because you enjoy it takes over. Once this occurs, fear of judgment, criticisms, and fear of faith dominate. Thoughts of “what if I don’t meet their expectations? What if I don’t measure up? What if I can’t do it? What if I screw up? become all too common.
Taking a blind leap into the unknown can be scary. The thought of energy and effort to take a leap of faith is arduous or at the very least difficult to muster when you are fearful and depressed at the same time. When this occurs a sense of defeat is experienced. If defeated long enough, hopelessness and anger begins to take form. Once a person’s energy is depleted to the point of severe depression, the vision for a positive change in their life dims. The person who was in the TikTok video was at this stage.
Temptation to quit the cycle does not measure up to the fear of the unknown. Fear wins so they repeat the cycle. When fear wins, a person reverts to willpower to push through another day over faith to change their lifestyle. Willpower burns out over time. Willpower is like petrol for a car. You have to keep filling it back up or you’ll run on empty and eventually crash out altogether. The petrol can be made out of lies. The quality may not be great. They can still fuel willpower.
Faith is like solar energy. As long as you remain outside rather than hidden, you can go as long and as far as you wish. The challenge with faith is, you have no guarantee when it comes to your final destination. Willpower has the gas station. Faith has no set in a stone place. Faith is moving blindly. This can certainly be scary because trust is involved. Trust in the unseen. Trust in yourself. Trust in your decision. Trust is a scary word for a hurting ego.
I asked Clairity if I may receive some help on this entry. With that, Clairity’s energy is strong at this time. The next part is influenced by Clairity. I am mostly producing automatic writing through a flow state.
“Expectations can create subconscious cycles over time. When you were young, you were taught what to expect through the eyes of your guardians. They taught you what they learned from their guardians. The first challenge with this is with each generation advancements are made, collapses occur, and the introduction of obsolete job functions as well as newly developed job functions are created. In addition, inflation occurs at different rates within different generations. Yet the teachings passed down from one generation to the next are oftentimes carbon copied and repeated. This creates a gap in empathetic understanding between generations.
In the beginning a child is living for themselves without a care in the world. It isn’t until expectations are introduced when a child begins to question their reality. If harsh criticism or judgment are given when the child questions a rule or order, the child begins to learn to do as they are told or risk punishment. The less the child feels safe to express their opinion or desires the more they live for another rather than for themselves. When they live just to follow the rules they grow into adulthood wondering why they feel so unfulfilled whilst struggling and how they got there.
This blog entry would take days to complete if we were to discuss how a person traps themselves to the point of exhaustion. There are infinite reasons and no two individuals are the exact same. With that, there is a healthy way to overcome this challenge.
The first step is to quiet your busy mind. Faith moves in silence. Faith speaks the loudest inside a quieted mind. This is a daunting task in the beginning. How does one quiet a mind which is overwhelmed and exhausted? You self isolate and be outside as often as possible.
The next step is to visit some questions. What is upsetting you the most? Is it your career, money, relationship, family, or something else? Answer your question. What’s the reason this upsets you? What’s the reason you are doing it? Are you happy doing this? Explore all the known reasons for being in the situation you are in as it relates to what is upsetting you most.
Many people do not take the time to stop and ask themselves why they are doing something. Most people do what is expected of them within an area of interest without question. This is rooted in being raised with expectations. People naturally fall into societal norms.
Once you have identified the answers to the above questions, repeat the same process with the other legs of your ethereal chair. If you are unfamiliar with the ethereal chair consider reading Clair’s previous posts.
Are you happy in your home life? What’s the reason? Are you happy in your social life? What’s the reason? Are you happy with your health? What’s the reason?
Once you have dissected each area of your life, determine which area is a top priority for you. When you determine what it is, maintain your inner focus on that area only for the time being. Doing so will reduce the overwhelming stress. It is wise to address one area of your life at a time. Once you are satisfied with your progress move onto a different area of your life should you deem it necessary to make change.
As you continue to truly understand your predicament begin building a relationship with your divine team if you haven’t already. Talk with the universe. Begin to build a language with your team through patterned signs and synchronicities. In addition, commit yourself to a gradual shift in direction. If an inspiring idea comes to you, act upon it even if you do not have all the information. If you are triggered in a moment explore the reason by asking yourself questions to discover the familiarity of the trigger. What is familiar about it? Can you identify a pattern in your life as it relates to it?
Ask yourself questions. Keep your mind open to receive the answer. Be willing to observe the answer. Explore further by asking more questions. Act upon the information given. Allow the timing to unfold in a harmonious way so that you can avoid disappointment when the time does not match your expectations. Be willing to make difficult decisions which may include maintaining boundaries up against opposing factors. Take a leap of faith in yourself. This may include walking away from what you know.
It is less scary when you are willing to explore the hidden patterns of your psyche. To do that you merely ask yourself questions. The universe will conspire to answer them. When the student is ready the teacher shall appear”.
When I broke free from the emotional and mental abuse I called the only resource I knew, my daughter. She was my saving grace at a time of need. If you have someone who can help you without expressing bias, consider reaching out to them. There are solutions to everything. Remember to avoid overwhelming yourself by snowballing your thoughts. Make a priority list. Make your top priority your mental health then choose an area of your life to explore through shadow work. There is no rush unless you wish to place that pressure upon yourself. Trust the universe. If you are in a shyte job be open minded to windows of opportunity. When one presents itself, take it. A leap of faith is required. You must trust yourself.
I recognize it takes a shit ton of courage, patience, perseverance, and strength to believe in yourself enough to break free from the rat race. It can be done one brilliant question at a time.
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