(Disclaimer: Some names have been changed to protect their privacy. Some information may be disturbing for some readers. Read at your discretion. 18+)
Caroline came into Tranquil Spirit in November, 2008. She came with the intentions of having a private mediumship session with me. She also had personal life questions. During this session Caroline explained that when she was a child, she was not allowed out of the car to stand at her mother’s grave.
“I only have vague memories of that day. I remember being in the car looking out the window when they were burying my mum. I can’t remember which plot is hers though. The cemetery went through some changes over the years as well. My dad wouldn’t let me get out of the car to join the burial service. I wish I knew where my mum was. I would like to have a place to go to so that I can talk with her”, Caroline explained.
I felt for her. I could feel Caroline’s energy alongside her mother’s in spirit form. “Communication is telepathic. Your mum hears you. You can talk with her anywhere. With that said, I can understand your desire to know where her plot is. It must be difficult for you”.
Caroline smiled and said, “yes it is. I think about it often”.
No sooner did those words come out of Caroline’s mouth, “I can locate her plot for you” blurted out of my mine. My first thought was, “oh shit! Where did that come from? I don’t want to do that!”.
Caroline looked at me with big doe eyes “really!? You can?”.
My response was, “seems so? If I said it then I guess I can help”.
Caroline then eagerly suggested, “I can meet you at the cemetery where her funeral was. The only thing is, I can only do it on a weekend. I work during the weekdays”.
With that, I, once again, reluctantly agreed to a Sunday afternoon, approximately two weeks later.
Caroline had called to confirm I was still prepared to assist her. She also informed me that she invited her siblings to attend. I was nervous as all heck. I didn’t know if I could do it. I felt the pressure. I knew how important it was for her. The fear of messing with her mind was front and center in my mind. All I kept thinking was “bloody hell Clair. What did you do! What if you get a blank in your head? What if you can’t do this? The pain of disappointment would be too much for Caroline, and me”.
Then I would reassure myself by countering those thoughts with “it came out of your mouth for a reason. Trust. Take a deep breath. You can do this”.
I kept on taking soothing breaths. You know when you sigh after having a heavy thought? I did that a lot leading up to this discovery day as well. I was a nervous wreck.
The day arrived. It was a chilly November day. The sky was overcast. The ground was damp, crisp, and frosty. There was a slight windchill in the air. It was cold enough for a winter coat and warm enough to be without a hat or mitts. I drove to the cemetery whilst listening to uplifting and soulful music. Melodic sounds help me to stabilize my energy and thoughts. I also took the time to connect with my spirit, my guides, and all loved ones who may assist the experience that was about to take place.
When I arrived at the cemetery, everyone was there. Caroline, along with three of her family members, as well as the groundskeeper, were waiting for me with eager anticipation. The groundskeeper was holding dowsing rods. After we all gave our warm greetings, the groundskeeper explained the purpose of the dowsing rods.
“These rods detect disturbances in the ground. When there is a change in energy, the rods move by extending outward, or, they move by crossing over each other”, he explained.
The groundskeeper then proceeded to hold one rod in each of his hands. “Let me show you”.
He then walked towards a known grave area with the dowsing rods pointed, parallel to each other, in a forward direction. As soon as he met the plot, the dowsing rods moved outward to form a straight line away from the groundskeeper’s body. The rods appeared as if they had hit a wall. He then moved around the area to outline the perimeter of the gravesite. The rods squared off at the corners, then straightened out again when the groundskeeper was walking along the edge of the ground disturbance. He then went on to say, “you see how the rods detect this burial plot? It recognized the rectangular shape of the grave. We can use these to help determine the location you are drawn to. I have a list of unclaimed plots. I can then reference the list to the location to determine if the plot is hosting a male or a female, as well as the age and year of burial”. I thought that was impressive. I also felt intense pressure.
I walked around the area they showed me. There was an old burial ground area and a newly designed burial area of the cemetery. Over the days leading up to this day I kept receiving a vision of a tree and words “step, one, two, three, over”. I saw a tree in the cemetery which was quite similar to my vision. The cemetery didn’t look the exact same though. I wasn’t confident. I walked to the tree. I felt nothing. I walked over to the old burial ground. I kept thinking “please tell me. Please show me? I’m not getting a bloody thing?”. I then felt an empty feeling inside me. This led me to believe that Caroline’s mother was not buried in the older section.
As I was in my mind, I looked over to the newer area. All five of the onlookers were staring at me. They were waiting for me to say something.
“Your mum isn’t in this area”, I announced.
The groundskeeper acknowledged my claim. “It isn’t likely that she is. The area you are standing in was not disturbed. Those plots are hundreds of years old. It is more likely that the plot you are searching for is in a different area”.
I thanked the groundskeeper for his knowledge then faced the direction of the new section. My eyes focused on the tree. In my mind I said, “okay. I can’t hear nor see you clearly. I am doubting myself. The air and ground is cold. When I am at the grave, make the ground hot. Make it so hot that I feel like I am standing on fire. I will know without a shadow of a doubt that I found her when I feel the heat under my feet”.
The next thing I heard in my mind was “one, two, three, over” With that, I walked to the tree. From the tree I took three large gated steps. Then I made one slight step to the left. Boom, a massive heatwave came up from the ground. My feet were blazing hot. I felt like I had walked on a hot bed of coals. “She’s here!”, I announced.
Every fibre in my being knew I was standing on a grave. As soon as I announced Caroline’s mum’s location, an overwhelming feeling of love came over me. I felt like I received a warm embrace from someone in spirit. It was a beautiful feeling. The feeling overwhelmed me so much that I sat down on the ground and placed my hands on the grass. I felt peace.
Caroline, and her family members became very excited, and extremely emotional. This was it. Time to prove if the information I received was accurate. The groundskeeper came over to where I was seated. He then used the dowsing rods to confirm the ground disturbance. I respectfully got my tuckus off of Caroline’s mother and stepped back.
After he used the dowsing rods, the groundskeeper used a walking measuring device to determine the feet from the road, to the grave, then from the grave, to the next ground disturbance adjacent to the one I located.
“There is definitely a grave at this location. Let me cross reference the plot marker to the list in the office to confirm age and gender of the deceased. It will only take a few moments”. With that, the groundskeeper left Caroline, her three family members, and myself to discuss what had just happened.
“Oh Clair, this could be it! I remember. I was in the car. My dad parked the car over there”,
Caroline pointed her finger to the gravel road, a couple of meters from where the tree stood. This looks to be about right. Oh I pray it is”.
I smiled and said “we shall see soon”. In my mind I was in awe. Could it actually be?
Upon the groundskeeper’s return he confirmed that the site was indeed a female the same age as Caroline’s mother. The plot was occupied in the year of her mother’s burial as well.
“This is an unmarked grave. You can claim this plot if you like?”, the groundskeeper offered to Caroline and her family.
“Oh, yes please!” Caroline proudly and excitedly accepted. I was stunned.
“Oh Clair, this means so much to us! Now I can have a headstone made and a place to come visit mum. Thank you! Thank you! Thank you!”. Caroline then hugged me and said thank you one more time.
“It’s my pleasure. I am honored to have been given this opportunity. I am so happy you found her. May you share many intimate conversations together”. With that, we all said our goodbyes and I left.
To this day I have no one hundred percent proof that what occurred was real, nor do I know if the female Caroline is spiritually bonding with in the grave is actually her mother. I thought about that quite a bit. Clairity helped to ease my mind.
“Clair, because your ego was louder than your spirit, you inadvertently blocked our communication. You expressed your receptivity. Your vibration and frequency on the other hand, created barriers in your auditory and visual understanding. Your anxious thoughts had overriden your intuitive knowing. You were wise to ask for a sensation outside of you to occur. Trust and open mindedness on the ways open communication can take place makes way for a greater picture to unfold”.
I acknowledged the truth in Clairity’s words. “Was the woman in the grave Caroline’s mother?”, I thought.
“That’s your ego talking. It’s okay that your ego wants to know. Having the experience is something to be proud of, within reason. Understand sweetheart, if you remain focused on questioning whether or not the grave was Caroline’s mother’s, you will lose sight over the fact that the peace produced from the experience was profound. Caroline gave herself permission to heal after that experience. That is a beautiful thing. As long as you recognize that your ego creates denser energy when in doubt, you can remain aware of the truth. If you doubt, or believe you can’t do something, you create an internal uphill battle for yourself. You are human. Therefore, keep recognizing your ego states. Whilst also calling upon different possibilities to receive information. Asking for a sign, a feeling, a thought, can easily be accomplished. Provided you trust and remain present in mind. Everyone, spirit beings, and earthly beings alike, manipulate energy. As long as you are receptive, spiritual aid is available. As you already know, the more you know your energy, the easier it is to detect someone else’s, including spirit”.
Yes, I most certainly do know that.
“Clair, recall the public event you participated in, in St. Stephen. A woman was annoyed with you for not telling her something. Another woman in the audience accused you that you must have been talking with your mother to know the details about her. Do you remember?”.
Yes I do.
I didn’t really enjoy large group mediumship work. I’m not passionate about it. With that said, I was a speaker for many spiritual gatherings. These particular women pissed me off. My mum backed me up, surprisingly. Fun times.
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